Everybody Loves a Winner Tips!!!

Everybody Loves a Winner

Yes, everybody loves a winner. We all tend to gravitate toward people who are positive and confident, enthusiastic and joyful. And while they might not always be winners of new business (and corresponding revenues), positive people approach things with an upbeat attitude and don't dwell on what is bad.

I don’t really remember a time in my life when I had negative thoughts. I am sure there must have been some occasions, but not being able to remember them suggests they have been rare. In fact, thinking about it, one of the words most often used to describe me by friends, colleagues and staff is “positive.”

I am genuinely uncomfortable in the company of negative people; I have nothing in common with them, but I do have my own “repellant” (more about that in a moment).

A quotation my mother often used was:
“Experience informs us that the first offense of weak minds is to recriminate.”—Samuel Taylor Coleridge

And indeed, I have discovered that those with a negative attitude typically suffer from what I call the three “C’s”: criticizing, condemning and complaining. So let me share some tips to help you overcome negativity and to recognize it in others.

Try to develop your own understanding of what negativity really is. Remember that constructive criticism is not negative. Check your conversations with others. Are you being negative? Check your thoughts and thinking processes. Remember, if you are thinking negatively, the only person you are harming is yourself. Remove those thoughts as you would spam email from your inbox. Discard them. You have the capacity to do that and your mind will respond if you try hard enough.
Build a bulletproof screen around you, so that negative comments or behavior from other people cannot penetrate. You can do this by instantly recognizing negative criticism or conversation for what it is.

From time to time, check the company you are keeping. If you have been mixing in the wrong environment, talk to people who are positive. Go out and mix with people you know have positive, constructive ideas. Mix with people who are doing better than you.

Have your own negative repellent. I have mine: Whenever anyone says anything really negative to me, I just say, “Fantastic!” No truly negative person enjoys hearing that word—they run for cover.
Remember, sadly, the negative is always stronger than the positive. For example, imagine a barrel of 240 really healthy apples. You open the barrel and place one rotten apple right in the middle. When you come back in two weeks’ time, you would think that, at odds of 240 to one, the healthy apples would have converted the bad one, right? Far from it, you will discover many more rotten apples. And that is exactly what happens within a company, within an office, within a sales team.

So how do you come across?
Are you generally positive and upbeat?
Or do you reply to the question “How are you doing?” with a somewhat morose “hanging in there.”

Everybody loves a winner or at least everybody loves someone who doesn’t bring them down. Maybe the sympathy plea works with your family or friends, but don’t try to use it with your business contacts. You’ll find people will flee from you like from the plague.

Times are tough, there’s no doubt about that. We’re all out there slugging away and trying to make it. Everybody likes a winner or at least the person who communicates the message that he or she is a winner (or expects to be one in the near future.)

Make sure you cultivate a winning attitude that draws people to you. It might just make the difference in your success.

Why do we so often forget that it’s the small things in life that have the largest impact? It seems so simple and yet often overlooked: That real compliment offered at the right time, in the right way, can help your relationship-building stock soar to new heights.


Hey, we’re all human, and we all love to know we are appreciated. King Solomon is recognized by historians as one of the wisest people who ever lived. He said, “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” and “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.”

CAUTION: Fake or forced compliments can do as much harm as good.

Never try to manipulate your audience with insincere smooth-talking or phony flattery. You may think you’re good at it, but nobody is that good for very long. In a world overflowing with slick advertisements and clever marketing ploys, everyone has their antennae up for BS and con-artistry. Just open your eyes, be present in the situation and offer a heartfelt acknowledgement for qualities you admire and appreciate in those around you. And while you’re taking the time to notice the small stuff in your relationships, you may also recognize opportunities previously overlooked.

People not only respond to those they like but also reciprocate in kind and with kindness to the people who make them feel welcome, appreciated and generally good about themselves. You’ll attract people by giving their self-esteem a boost. Some may say this sounds self-serving, but it is a fact of human nature.

The four keys to “praising” correctly are:

1. Be specific. The broad-brush “thank you” and “by the way, I think you’re great” are OK, but for maximum impact, make it precise and particular. Tell them exactly what it is you admire about them, with plenty of details.
2. Be sincere. Maybe you’re a bit sheepish about giving compliments. If so, practice on people you know best to get more comfortable. It will get easier. Look a person in the eyes, maybe grab his hand or forearm and just say what you like about him or her.
3. Go public. For maximum effect and impact, it’s easy to amplify your kudos by stating your compliment when in a group or public setting. No need for a megaphone or PowerPoint slide presentation, but perhaps over dinner or in a small group at a reception or happy hour, sing their praises.
4. Go old school. Put your praise in writing, but avoid modern communication styles (text message, Facebook post or email). And don’t use your computer’s printer. Grab a pen and paper, and write in your own hand that special compliment or thank you. Take a few minutes to write what you value about them. Do this in the evenings while you’re not distracted and even if you make a mistake, just cross it out and continue. It shows you really are human and cared enough to write.

It’s true that we get back in life what we give. Use compliments and see how much better your life can become.